It is time to tackle the tedious yet, unavoidable task of creating your guest list. When considering who to invite, there are often factors such as budget and the reactions of those not invited that can leave you feeling a bit overwhelmed. Remember that ultimately it boils down to what works best for you as a couple. If that didn’t ease a bit of your worries, here are a few tips to help you become more confident in your decision.

If asked, many could tell you every facet of their dream wedding if budget was not a factor, possibly down to their selection of napkin holders. Maybe that’s a bit extreme but, let this mindset be the starting point for creating your guest list. Don’t worry it will make sense as we move forward.

Given the opportunity, who would you invite if your budget and venue capacity were removed from the equation? Using the list you just created, sadly it is time to snap back into reality and embrace the idea of trimming. It might be easier to create your list using a word or excel sheet to make the trimming process easier. The most effective way to do this is to come up with rules and restrictions that you are dedicated to following. This will help minimize potential stress and uncomfortable conversations down the line.

Here are a few rules to get you started.

WHO KNOWS YOUR JOURNEY?

Your wedding day symbolizes the love you have for one another and is a celebration with those who have helped you along the way. If the individual doesn’t have the slightly idea about your love story, then consider removing them from the list. We understand in the heat of excitement family members often ask to invite coworkers or friends but if you don’t know them personally, remove them from the list. They can later be filled in if you have openings.  Also, if neither of you has not spoken to them in three years then remove them from the list.

Keep in mind that each guest equates to the number of place settings, chair rentals, favors, and plates that your caterer has to prepare. Although you don’t have to pay for a meat dish as in typical carnivore weddings, the price of an all vegan reception can get pricey depending on portion size and the number of courses. If you are feeling guilty about removing certain people because you may work with them, etc., reassure them that although you can’t invite them to your wedding, you would still like them to partake in your celebration. Consider inviting them to your bridal shower or the engagement party.

WHO UNDERSTANDS YOUR JOURNEY?

There may be individuals/carnivores on your guest list that may not be the most supportive with your vegan lifestyle. If you feel that they would have an issue going an evening (typically 5 hours) without having meat and animal based products then consider removing them from the list. Guest hopefully understand that if they are invited to attend your wedding that you would not break the principles you hold important just to satisfy someone else’s preferences.